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Soft Girlie Era • Part 3
The Practice of Not Burning Out
Hi my girlies 💗
If you’ve made it this far with me, thank you for being here. Truly. Writing these pieces has become one of the softest parts of my life, an open space where I get to reflect, release, and share what I’m learning in real time. If you’re new here, welcome angel. This is a journey of growth, softness, and becoming. I’m so glad you’re walking it with me.
Today, we’re talking about something I get asked all the time:
“How do you do all of this and not burn out?”
And the honest answer is… burnout doesn’t usually come from one big breakdown.
That shit builds quietly.
It shows up when rest keeps getting postponed.
When boundaries blur.
When you keep telling yourself “just one more thing” while ignoring what your body and spirit are asking for.
I learned that the hard way.
For years, I was doing so much and somehow getting nowhere. I thought avoiding burnout meant doing less, slowing down completely, or giving up on ambition. But what I’ve learned, especially in this soft girlie era, is that avoiding burnout isn’t about doing less. It’s about doing what matters with intention, and creating softness in between.
Burnout & the Soft Girlie Gap
My soft girlie era taught me something important:
You don’t escape burnout by running away from responsibility.
You escape burnout by learning how to be present inside your life. Doing everything with intention and love.
It’s about finding soft girlie gaps in everyday life.
Those moments where you pause instead of push.
Where you breathe instead of rush.
Where you choose presence over pressure.
Burnout thrives when everything feels urgent.
Softness lives in the space where you decide… not everything deserves my energy right now.
S L O W it D O W N, savor the now.
Energy Is Currency
As someone who deeply cares about goals, work, creativity, and the people I lead, I had to learn this the long way:
Not everything needs me at the same level.
That realization changed everything.
I move through my days by prioritizing what truly matters and letting go of what doesn’t need my attention right now. Everything doesn’t deserve urgency and everything doesn’t deserve access to me… or YOU.
Choosing where your energy goes is an act of self-respect, babygirl.
If they don’t like you, let them.
If it doesn’t align with your values, let it go.
If it drains you and doesn’t nourish you, step back.
Soft girlie energy doesn’t mean weak boundaries.
It means soft but firm ones.
Boundaries Are Softness in Action:
Managing people, leading projects, and building toward big dreams can be deeply rewarding but it can also be heavy. I used to think saying no meant I was failing or falling behind. Now I know better.
Saying no.
Protecting your time.
Being honest about your capacity.
That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom.
Because when you give everything to everyone, you’re left with nothing not even yourself. And we can’t pour into others if we’re empty.
One thing that truly supports my softness is structure, not rigid, punishing structure, but intentional planning. The kind of structure that creates peace.
I map out my weeks and days with care. Not just meetings and deadlines, but:
• Rest
• Creative time
• Slow mornings
• Time with people who fill my cup
When you plan your time, you become less reactive and more grounded. You stop living in constant urgency and start moving with clarity. That alone reduces stress and keeps burnout from creeping in. Yes I plan, I am a planner, if you think that is dramatic you need to step back and reflect on your days and ask yourself if the things you do everyday is intentional and leading you somewhere or are you just free flowing with no direction.
Take control of your life.
When I say “control,” I mean controlling the controllable.
Your actions.
Your boundaries.
Your energy.
Not controlling as attachment. Fine line, big difference.
Trying to control people, outcomes, or circumstances? That’s a fast track to burnout. Soft girlie energy flows when you release what isn’t yours to carry.
When it comes to resting. I will say this :
Rest is not something you earn. It’s something you need.
So many of us keep pushing because we feel like we haven’t done “enough” yet. Like stopping means we’re lazy or unproductive.
Girlie pop… that mindset leads straight to burnout.
Discipline isn’t just about working hard.
It’s about committing to care for yourself even when there’s more to do.
Naps.
Slow mornings.
Quiet evenings.
Moments of nothingness.
Unplugging from your phone.
These are not indulgences. They are survival. They are sustainability. They are softness woven into real life.
Stay present…
Burnout grows when we abandon ourselves.
Softness returns when we come back to the present moment. That is the antidote.
When you honor your rituals.
When you protect your energy.
When you stay disciplined about self-care.
Everything flows more smoothly not because life gets easier, but because you are more supported inside it.
Finding softness in between the meetings.
Peace inside routine.
Presence inside ambition. All the things that brings you to the now, to your breath, to your heart beat.
You don’t need to disappear to rest.
You just need to choose yourself, again and again.
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Hope this holds you, my baddie boss babe girlie pop fairy queen.
Don’t stop now, you’ve made it this far.
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Keep pouring into YOU.
Love you so much,
loliii is here with you
we are growing 👯👯👯👯
part 2 is here 🐞✨
Soft girlie era
Soft era came to me right at a time when I felt I was getting ready to take a leap with my career. I was in that confusing in-between space of loving what I do yet craving a softer lifestyle, far away from the constant motion of 9-5 duties. I didn’t realize then how capable I was of holding both things I loved at once: the hustle that grounds me and the soft life that nourishes me.
I was also fresh out of a challenging phase with my body. I had been training so hard, pushing myself past what felt natural, and my hormones were all over the place. The bloating, the exhaustion, the frustration… it all caught up to me. My body was practically whispering please try something different. And so, I listened.
This is when I decided to disconnect. To step back from everything I thought I knew, quiet the noise, and let myself breathe. Meditation slowly became one of the most grounding parts of my day. Turning inward started to soften the edges of my mind and helped me hear my body more clearly. I found myself diving into books about women’s health, hormones, cycles. I started guarding my sleep the way you protect something precious. And little by little, my body guided me toward what felt good again. That’s really where my soft girlie era was born.
And I’ll be honest, some of this softness came from love. Having a boyfriend who brings out my feminine energy so naturally, who makes space for me to be soft, protected, and expressive, has been transformative. It’s like a part of me that had been sleeping finally stretched, yawned, and said oh, this is who I am.
A soft girlie era to me looks like this: being flexible with what time I wake up, listening when my body says stay in bed a little longer. Moving slowly in the mornings. A small yoga flow and twenty minutes of Pilates feel like more than enough for my body right now. I try to get about seven thousand steps before my day really starts, and by the end, my goal is ten. It feels gentle, intentional, and very me.
Soft girlie era looks like letting my man be a man, because when I do, something in me naturally relaxes and melts into my feminine energy without even trying.
Soft girlie era for me also meant choosing to take my Pilates training and signing up for a yoga training in March 2026. There’s so much coming from this chapter that I haven’t shared yet. I’m not fully ready to talk about it, but my life is about to flip in ways it never has before. I feel it deeply.
I’m definitely not fully in my soft era yet because I’m still working my 9-5, but this season feels like a transition. A shedding. I’ve let go of a layer of insecurity I didn’t even realize I had. I’m learning to sit in this strange but beautiful place of knowing and not knowing. I don’t always see the full path ahead, but I’m trusting my heart more when it’s time to make decisions.
If you’ve been here through my growth, or if you’re new, you should know this about me: I’ve always felt like a shadow. Not because of anyone specifically, but because of old trauma that followed me quietly until recently, when I finally started to understand it. Healing that has made room for softness.
Soft girlie era means stepping into your life with gentle boundaries. Knowing you can do it all and chase your dreams fiercely, but also remembering that you need time for you. It means tapping into your inner child, romanticizing the little things that make you feel feminine… buying yourself flowers, riding your bike through open fields, decorating your space in a way that makes you sigh with happiness when you walk in.
Yes, be firm when you need to be , life still requires strength. But also step back when your spirit asks for rest. Pour back into your cup. Tend to the softer sides of you. Let yourself be a girlie girl.
Don’t forget: when you find softness within yourself, you can be more loving with those around you. And love is the web of this universe that keeps us all connected.
xoxo loliii loves you
thank you for being here
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Hi girlie girls. I am so grateful to see tou back here and be a part of this new journey for me. Writing has really helped me with creating a space of expression. A lot of what I write comes from books and personal lessons inspiration. If this is your first time here welcome my friend, make sure to check out the other topics too I am happy you are joining a journey of growth with me.
Let’s dive in… 💫 today we introduce :
Tapping into your “soft girl era”.
🤔What does that mean exactly?
It means embracing a lifestyle, mindset, or aesthetic that emphasizes softness, emotional openness, femininity, self-care, and gentleness—both in how you treat yourself and how you move through the world. It often involves intentionally stepping away from hustle culture, emotional hardness, or constant productivity to focus on ease, beauty, and inner peace.
I started tapping into my soft girl era because I realized I’d been operating in an environment that constantly demanded masculine energy—structure, performance, and leadership, especially in managing others and keeping things on track. On top of that, I was pushing my body through intense training that left me burnt out, flooded with adrenaline, and disconnected from ease. Embracing softness became a way to restore balance, to reconnect with my femininity, intuition, and a gentler rhythm that honors my well-being.
Here are some key aspects of the what it takes to practice being in a Soft Girl Era these are the main things I things that creates the foundation:
- Emotional Vulnerability: Allowing yourself to feel deeply, cry, rest, and express emotions without shame.
- Feminine Energy: Leaning into traditionally feminine traits—nurturing, intuitive, gentle, playful, and receptive.
- Self-Care & Healing: Prioritizing wellness routines, therapy, rest, nourishing food, skincare, and boundaries.
- Romanticizing Life: Finding beauty in small moments—lighting candles, reading, wearing pretty clothes just for you, etc.
- Saying No to Burnout: Rejecting overworking or “strong woman” tropes to make space for softness, rest, and pleasure.
With my practice, this is what it looks Like:
- Letting myself rest when tired instead of pushing through
- Speaking kindly to myself and others
- Creating a peaceful morning routine
- Setting boundaries with people or habits that drain me
- Allowing someone to care for me instead of always being the caretaker
It’s essentially about living from a place of softness, authenticity, and grace—especially in a world that often rewards hardness or hustle.
Here are practical, grounded ways to tap into your soft girl era, emotionally, physically, and energetically:
Mental & Emotional Softness
1. Speak gently to yourself
Swap out harsh self-criticism with affirming thoughts. Try: “I’m doing my best, and that’s enough.”
2. Journal your emotions
Create space for your feelings—good, bad, or messy. Use prompts like:
• What do I need today?
• What’s something I’m ready to release?
3. Practice emotional openness
Let yourself be vulnerable in safe spaces. Cry when you need to. Ask for help. Receive love.
4. Forgive yourself and others
Let go of perfection. Be soft with your past and present self.
🌸 Daily Routines that feel soft
1. Create a slow morning or evening ritual
Light a candle, stretch, make tea, or sit in silence. A soft girl morning isn’t rushed—it’s sacred.
2. Romanticize everyday tasks
Dress up to run errands. Use pretty dishes. Play calming music while cleaning. Make it all feel beautiful.
3. Wear what makes you feel delicate and confident
Think flowy fabrics, cozy knits, pastel tones, dainty jewelry, or anything that feels soft on your skin and soul.
🧘♀️ Energy & Lifestyle Shifts
1. Rest unapologetically
Schedule naps, slow Sundays, or “do nothing” days. You don’t need to earn rest.
2. Set soft but firm boundaries
Softness isn’t weakness. Protect your peace by saying no, stepping back, or limiting energy-draining people.
3. Prioritize softness in relationships
Surround yourself with people who honor your emotional depth, softness, and peace.
4. Engage in gentle movement
Yoga, long walks, stretching, or dancing in your room—move in a way that feels nourishing, not punishing.
🪄 Creative Expression
1. Curate a soft girl playlist or mood board
Think Lana Del Rey, Sade, or dreamy lo-fi beats. Create a visual or auditory vibe that matches your emotional state.
2. Read poetry or write love notes to yourself
Affirm your worth and remind yourself how much love you carry inside. You are divine babygirl.
As I continue embracing my soft girl era, I’ve learned that stepping into a new version of yourself doesn’t have to be loud or perfect—it just has to be true. Whether it’s slowing down, prioritizing rest, or creating space for softness in your routine, find what genuinely works for you. If you’re just starting this journey, go easy. Be patient with the process and extend yourself the same grace you so freely give to others. Growth doesn’t always look like hustle—sometimes, it looks like softness, stillness, and choosing peace on purpose.
hope this inspires you be tap into your soft girlie energy💕
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